Lately I’ve been thinking a bit about the concept of situational friends. I don’t mean people that you hang out with in certain situations-work, church, sports, school, with a certain group of friends, etc. and don’t see outside of those situations, or people that you only discuss certain topics with-politics, or religion, perhaps.
Instead, I’m thinking of someone that may come into your life for a short period of time when you’re going through a struggle or crisis of some sort. That person, for whatever reason, is the right one to help you make it through the crisis. After the crisis, you two go your separate ways. It’s a bit awkward to separate from someone that you’ve become emotionally close to-something like a breakup.
For me, it’s a bit difficult to lose touch with those who were important in my life. Often, I keep calling old college friends, playing phone tag, until I feel the relationship slipping away in a haze of different lives, children on their end, etc. I think I need to accept that someone can be extremely important in one phase of your life-but then not have a part to play afterwards. Of course, the same can go for you-you can counsel someone through a difficult situation, and then once they’re out of it, they may not want/need you around as a reminder anymore. You can make an impact on someone, love them, and let them go.
And that’s perfectly alright. Knowing when to leave the stage is often one of the most important parts of a performance.
*this blog may get a tad more personal. hope nobody minds. the current debt ceiling debate is too depressing (on all sides, but mostly on the house GOP) for me to want to write about public policy for a bit.